My Mood Has Been All Over The Place

“Hey AlphaX,

I’m an 18-year-old who’s been reading your site a lot lately. I can’t really express how much of a help it’s been for me. My parents are both religious so my only real help in the way of building my attractiveness has been the internet. Your site has been the most helpful thus far. I appreciate that you’re honest enough to point out that you’re yourself a product of a lot of time and effort and weren’t just “born awesome” (like I’ve seen some “players” on askmen and other sites try to pass themselves off as gods). Honesty is important and you do that well.

Anyways, just last year I had a long-distance thing with this one girl I met online. It sounds stupid, but we took it seriously and felt stuff for each other. I know now how dumb of an idea it was, but looking back it gave me a taste of “true love” as the media would put it. I threw myself at her like an idiot. She liked me back then because neither of us had ever experienced a person of the other gender that liked us. Needless to say, we eventually moved on and since then I met another girl at the start of this year. I was still quite beta. I threw myself at her the same way and she broke up with me a month later (saying it was entirely situationally based, but I eventually saw through that).

In the last 3 months, I’ve finally left behind the self-image of being “adorable” and “cute” and I’ve started seeing myself as “hot”. I’ve learned to use more dominant body language and tell girls “no” as if they weren’t even female. I’m still a virgin, but I don’t feel the need to have sex at the price of losing control (when I have sex, it’ll be on my terms with her begging). I’m single too, but I don’t feel the need to enter a relationship. I have girls that have boyfriends who flirt with me (the girls not the boyfriends). Anyways, it’s been fun so far. I know I have a ways to go, though. My moto has been never to make the same mistake twice, and if I do, I won’t make it a third time. I never make the same mistake three times.

I do have a question, though:

It’s gotten better over the last year, but my mood has been kind of all over the place. I’ll go a week where I feel amazing and can hold frame nearly perfectly. Another week I might just be in a “meh” mood and not feel all that attractive. I wanna know if this is just a hormonal phase of some sort or if it’s something that doesn’t change (and how to cope with it if it doesn’t), OR if it’s something every person has to overcome at some point in their life. I know you’re no expert on that type of stuff but at least anecdotally fill me in or try to. Thanks.

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…And I’ve been binge reading dating advice for the last few months (usually in phases). Sometimes I just don’t feel very good (my frame feels harder to hold together and I have emotional temptations to randomly text my ex something stupid). To “fix” that, I usually resort to one of 2 things: either I binge read your site and work out, OR I just work out. Sometimes, when I’m not “in the zone”, I tend to not be able to resonate with the advice and it just stresses me out. Other times, I read it and things click and I feel like I know everything. I’ve seen improvement in how low my lows are and how high my highs are over time, but still I sometimes I feel like I’m not making progress (I know I am when I look back, but my mood says otherwise).

The fact that the girl I stuttered while asking to homecoming (as a friend) last year is now constantly challenging me despite having a boyfriend tells me otherwise, but my mood doesn’t know that.

John”

John,

First let me start by saying, “Good for you!” I wished I had learned all of this at 16, my life would be a lot easier today. It takes a lot of courage to try to better ourselves as men, especially in the face of all the negative feminist notions we are bombarded with daily.

With that, I wanted to answer your fantastic question:

“It’s gotten better over the last year, but my mood has been kind of all over the place. I’ll go a week where I feel amazing and can hold frame nearly perfectly. Another week I might just be in a “meh” mood and not feel all that attractive. I wanna know if this is just a hormonal phase of some sort or if it’s something that doesn’t change (and how to cope with it if it doesn’t), OR if it’s something every person has to overcome at some point in their life.”

This is a great question because it is a phenomenon that many people feel when they are trying to change their mental programming, and it is a topic very few people talk about.

Have you ever heard of “Congruence”? It is a topic many in the seduction community talk about – when your conscious mind aligns with your subconscious mind and your actions you are said to be congruent. This is a very powerful state. When you have a strong frame like this, everyone can feel it. It is why I can get away with saying things the average person wouldn’t utter – my entire essence is congruent.

With that said, until your subconscious mind has learned and naturally accepted all of these Alpha Traits you will experience a conflict between the subconscious and conscious mind. You will experience mood swings. You may even experience some bitterness as you start to consciously recognize all of the areas men are put down in our society. I also believe you will experience negative feelings as you remember all the “nice” things you did to win a girl, only to realize now that the lies we learn from society on women drive them away rather than attracting them.

I know I did.

Now, I have no doubt that your hormones are also influencing your mood. We seem to all be moody teenagers at one time, but most men that I have ever worked with, or that have changed their life to be better with women, have experienced these shifts in our mental frame.

The good news is you can speed up the learning curve by using the Subliminal Programming included in the training material. I made every one of these recordings (over 15 hours), and as I write, I am listening to a subliminal program. I fully believe in the power of focusing the subconscious mind, and I use it in everything from healing from my accident, to quit smoking, to building wealth. I also used them to help speed along my Alpha and seduction transformation.

I have sent you the ability to download the programs. Would you mind listening to the “Build Irresistible Confidence and Masculinity” for two weeks, then reporting back to us? Personally I would love to know how much, and how fast, this helps you.

Thanks again for the great question,
AlphaX