“AlphaX,
What is your advice for handling the Alpha female? As men we have numerous amounts of women to choose from with variations that are endless, but some women are easier to dominate and others are naturally prone to having a dominate personality as well, they are fun to challenge and are very rewarding when captured.
However, I wanted to get your philosophy in this particular area. Let me try to be more specific, for example lets say that you are pursuing a young woman who is an obvious alpha female; she doesn’t just stick out of the crowds with her looks but with the way she carries herself and projects out to the world around her. How would you handle these women and are you more inclined to target these types or do you focus on easier prey? It seems natural for me to want an alpha female being an alpha male, but I wonder what the consequences could be for two powerful dominant people to exist together. Will they be constantly fighting for power position or will they thrive with threatening ambition?
By the way I have a 22 yr. old girlfriend and I am 24, she isn’t quite alpha female material but is very gorgeous and talented. I am asking from a position of curiosity, I have two sets of parents that divorced over this issue. The first marriage lasted for 8 years and they both fell apart and crumbled over their personalities. They should have never been together but she was young and he was the dominant one of the relationship, she grew older had a few kids and they both realized that they would always clash if they didn’t divorce. They were both strong minded people who I would call alphas. They both remarried and my father found his serving housewife and so did my mother, he seriously does anything she says.
You can see why I am so curious. They lasted long enough for her to realize she wasn’t about that house wife shit, and then they rearranged accordingly. Both found what they could couple with in the end but it proved the idea of two alphas may not be the best idea. Tell me what you think.
By the way, great site and advice, you seem to have accumulated copious amounts of hardships and growth from those hardships in life. I admire that in people.
James”
Hey James,
Thank you very much for the compliment. I truly do try to help. If I can keep just 1 single guy from making the costly mistakes I have, then it is well worth it.
Also, very interesting question, and I must say the thought crosses my mind every single time I hear of some gorgeous, rich, actress divorcing a man most men would consider Alpha – one that has 100,000’s of girls willing to bed him in a second.
Some recent TMZ headlines, though there are probably better examples.
“Basketball Wives” star Evelyn Lozada has been keeping a big secret — she’s 6-months pregnant — and TMZ has learned Chad Johnson is NOT the baby daddy.
Read more: http://www.tmz.com/category/dirty-divorces/#ixzz2mQJrg28d
Brooke Mueller has just declared nuclear war in her child custody dispute with Charlie Sheen — she’s accused Denise Richards of abusing her twins and the 2 other daughters Denise had with Charlie … sources tell TMZ.
Read more: http://www.tmz.com/category/dirty-divorces/#ixzz2mQK0fKzF
Marc Anthony’s ex-wife claims the singer has turned a cold shoulder on her children … forcing them to sell their home and move into a hovel in the Valley … while he lives like a king — and to add insult to injury, he pays the very rich Jennifer Lopez a ton of child support … this according to court documents obtained by TMZ.
Read more: http://www.tmz.com/category/dirty-divorces/#ixzz2mQKBfMJ9
Clint Eastwood’s soon-to-be ex-wife is looking to make some pocket change … she’s going back to her roots — figuratively — TMZ has learned Dina Eastwood is going back to anchoring the news at her old TV station.
Read more: http://www.tmz.com/category/dirty-divorces/3/#ixzz2mQKr8aAe
Miranda Kerr is not willing to say her split from Orlando Bloom is forever … which is both big and disheartening news for millions of men.
Read more: http://www.tmz.com/category/dirty-divorces/3/#ixzz2mQL8OGnO
Orlando Bloom… Clint Eastwood… these are the type of men that most men would consider Alpha simply by being rich, famous and desired by millions of women.
Here is the thing, fame doesn’t make you Alpha anymore that money does. Yes, it can give the illusion of Alpha, simply by putting you in front of more people (for fame) or by having the resources to demonstrate success (money). It can also boost your confidence as more people want to be around you because of these traits. That doesn’t mean the famous actor or rich man doesn’t become weak and needy while dealing with his girl. I love Mel Gibson as an actor, and I still think he is an Alpha, but that ranting tirade with his ex demonstrated he didn’t have as good of control of himself as he should.
Case in point, I met a very famous Rock Musician at the Palm Springs, Florida airport. My business meeting was done early, but the earliest flight I could catch was not till later that evening. I sat down in a pub to eat and work on my computer.
As I sit down, talking on the phone mind you, a rather scruffy looking guy gets up from the bar and sticks his hand out to introduce himself. I was the President of a $36 million dollar company and rather busy, I also wasn’t use to being interrupted. I put up the “I’m on the phone – 1 minute” finger.
After finishing my call I turned to him and simply said “Yes?”
He said (I am leaving out his name – no need to hurt his reputation nor be sued for perceived slander), “Hi, I am THAT GUY, lead singer of THAT GROUP.”
I actually love THAT GROUP, and was happy to meet him. If you notice he had to throw the band name in his introduction, the first clue he didn’t have much confidence.
We chatted a bit, and he told me his private jet was broken and he had to wait till it was fixed. He also told me he had a concert the next day, and asked if I wanted to do shots. Party with THAT GUY – hell yes I did.
After an hour of hearing about all the hot models and chicks he had banged (being a public figure like he is, I know he has dated a few big name models and actresses – what most men would call an Alpha female) two new gentlemen join us in the pub. Both of these men play on the PGA tour, and were discussing that weekends tournament.
Being me, I simply use my social skills to talk to them. I don’t brag on them or gush. To be honest, it is cool meeting everyone, but I turn around failing companies worth millions, the fact you can swing a golf club or sing really well does not floor me. It’s cool to hear their stories and lifestyle, but I have my own exciting adventures.
Anyway, as the two golfers are talking about the PGA tournament, THAT GUY blurts out, “You know Tiger Woods? I know him. We play golf all the time.”
Everyone looks at THAT GUY, kind of nods, and goes back to talking. He then blurts out, “You know SUPER MODEL? She was my girl. I fucked SUPER MODEL.”
And we all look at him again.
This happens several times, with the conversation drifting between THAT GUY’s exploits, the PGA tournament, golf, and very briefly, what I did. I tend to down play who I am and what I am about. I just have no need to prove anything to them.
Now, we are the only 4 guys in this tiny pub and we talked, drank and joked for a few hours.
THAT GUY is hammering shots, and pouring them for me and the golfers when they would have them. None of us are fall down drunk, but I wouldn’t have driven a car.
Around this time, 2 rather heavy girls came in. Neither was attractive. In all of my life, I have never dated/banged/kissed a woman in the same league as these two.
THAT GUY announces he is going to go flirt with “ze womenz”. He then asked me to pay his tab.
I told him “No, you invited me to do shots with you.”
He told me “I never have to buy my drinks.”
I said “Awesome” and called the bartender over. I asked him to split the tab down the middle and give me my half.
THAT GUY was not happy as he wandered over to the two trolls at the table.
First line out of his mouth?
“Hi, I am THAT GUY, lead singer of THAT GROUP.”
The golfers and I talked for a bit longer till it was time for me to leave.
This guy is a serious rock legend. Has been on reality TV shows and a few movies I think. He has banged some of the hottest women on the planet. He is rich, famous, and has the classic bad boy rocker look. Alpha, he wasn’t. No wonder he was able to bang hot chicks he couldn’t keep. I did the same thing when I was rich.
Do you get the story?
The Alpha female is typically the hottest and bitchiest of the group. If she is famous or rich, she is use to even more praise and attention.
But when a very confident man that understands sexual tension, attraction, etc. -basically ALPHA is around, she will submit.
We may verbally spar. She will test the hell out of him. She will look for every chink she can find in his stoic Alpha essence.
And when she doesn’t find it – she is his.
A couple of weeks ago my girl and I picked up two rather attractive women. A bi-sexual couple. One girl was the Master, the other was the Sub. A very similar arrangement to what I have with my girl.
After some flirting and drinks, the “Alpha” female was sitting on my lap as I told her exactly what I wanted her to do. 20 minutes later my girlfriend was flush from several orgasms. Just because this hot brunette was the leader of her little pack (and use to men throwing themselves at the both of them just for a shot at the threesome) doesn’t mean she is Alpha around me.
As for your comment on your parents, I truly am sorry to hear that, but I understand. I told these stories not to brag, but to try to demonstrate a point. The strongest frame wins.
Having been divorced, I am not much for giving marital advice.
With my life experience, I feel a strong Alpha male will subdue and lead any Alpha female. My mental frame is Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie – both Alpha’s in their own right. I don’t know them at all, but my money is on Brad being the bigger Alpha.
So that’s my take on the Alpha female James. All extremely hot women have some of those “testing” Alpha traits – that’s why we study frames, Neg’s, Cocky & Funny and shit test. It’s so you learn a system to demonstrate your mastery over her. This helps you build the mental road map and confidence to always be the bigger Alpha.
Take a gorgeous woman, add years of attention, fame, wealth, etc. and you have an Alpha female.
Would she ever go with a non-famous, non-wealthy Alpha? You bet your ass she would. And I didn’t try to “One Up” THAT GUY – but I had bedded a few actresses and singers (one has several Grammy’s) myself. I just don’t need to name drop.
And how did I handle them? I ignored their fame, wouldn’t discuss their careers, songs or movies. I treated them like any other pick-up with a very amped up masculine energy.
My advice is simple – be more Alpha than anyone around you. Do you always get the girl? No, you don’t. Will you always keep the girl? No you won’t. But it is way better than a 50-50 shot.
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Join discussionThe dynamics don’t really shift then, you just have to persist and stay on target.
I enjoyed your brief story about the “guy in a band,” I see guys like this all the time, I have a friend that constantly talks about how many women he has slept with, throwing out numbers like it proves his manliness. When he is around women he talks up anything and everything to make the woman find him more attractive, I’ve always taken this to be a sign of weakness and it seems to stem from chronic low self esteem. Maybe I’m wrong but it doesn’t seem necessary to constantly try to sell people because of your accomplishments, I see how it could benefit in certain situations but for the most part it just makes you look like a asshat.
Brad and Angelina is a very great example of two alphas orbiting each other on a daily basis, but I’m sure the view from their castle in the sky helps with this problem for them. For some reason though – I don’t know why – I can sort of see Angelina taking a power position as well. If we’re only talking about gaming then this seems like less of a problem – having two alphas come together I mean – if it were long term it would probably get worse with time, who knows.
But it’s still an interesting dynamic existing in the world of human interactions. Thanks again for the response. I’m am currently trying to barrel through the NLP stuff right now. Keep writing.