Hello, greetings from Europe, I like your blog and I noticed you’re into dominance and BDSM, it seems most successful men are… so my question is, do you think all alpha-men are naturally dominant and craving for submissive, hot girls?… and incidentally, what do you think of “50 shades of Grey”? Because I’m very amazed at its success, as I cannot believe something so “common” and tame is arousing so many women… is there a total lack of imagination in the USA or what?
Hi Europe,
Good question. Most successful men (regardless of wealth) know that women are attracted to dominant men. It may be Alpha, it may be BDSM – the outcome is the same, by being a dominant man the women tend to be more feminine and tend to have much better sexual experiences with the man.
I read “50 Shades of Grey” long after my personal discovery – it is tame and a typical romance novel. 21 year old, well educated woman that doesn’t like to dress “sexy” attracts a powerful, dominant and very rich 27 year old billionaire. Thru her submission to him (which he paid for with lavish gifts) she realizes she likes being dominated but is confused about why she feels so turned on when he dominates her. After one severe punishment, she gets “butt hurt” (pun intended) and decides to leave. At this point our strong, powerful, dominant man is heart broken and pleas with her not to leave. She gives all the gifts back and splits.
Basic elements:
Strong, independent and beautiful woman
Strong powerful and Alpha man
Conflict: She likes the sexual experience but is not his equal
Fantasy: She leaves him to become independent again and he is heart broken
It’s the average woman’s dream and how she likes to think of herself.
The book was boring, the BDSM tame, and I won’t see the movie. My sub went to see the movie and said she liked the sex scenes but said the movie was cheesy.
It’s success comes from all of the WOMEN that long for a dominant Alpha man.
Here is the question that got me: “is there a total lack of imagination in the USA or what?”
Yes there is. I don’t know what part of Europe you are from, but the UK suffers from the same weakness. Men are constantly bombarded and punished for the crimes of the few or the past.
Let’s just take one example: Rape
The feminist movement would try to have you believe that 1-5 college women will be raped in their college years. The truth is women are very safe in our society, period.
From the Bureau of Justice Statistics, a division within DOJ, – Rather than one in five female college students becoming victims of sexual assault, the actual rate is 6.1 per 1,000 students, or 0.61 percent (over a 4 year period, instead of 1-in-5, the real number is 0.03-in-5). For non-students, the rate of sexual assault is 7.6 per 1,000 people. 0.76% . That includes “forcible sexual harassment” and not just rape, but is as close as I could get to the real number.
Oh, and men are raped more than women, however some women would say a man couldn’t get rapped. They are obviously thinking in their very narrow “my safe world” and not reality.
In addition to this, men are bombarded with a bunch of lies that prevent them from being the “good” dominant man and instead teach them to be the “weak” submissive man. And just like the “50 shades of grey” example – she doesn’t want a weak man – she wants a powerful Alpha man that falls so in love with her HE CHANGES to be with her. But once he changes, she isn’t interested anymore as seen by the 71%+ divorce rate of women leaving men.
So, it may seem obvious in your culture, but our culture has beat men down so much that many have been taught to shun their normal strength as being bad – and something women don’t want. A woman’s fantasy, through all of recorded history, is “The Powerful Alpha Man That Changes His Bad Boy Ways And Only Wants Her.”
Yes she wants a guy that is “sweet, faithful, fun, humorous, sweet, caring etc.” as a lot of men in commercials and media are portrayed. What isn’t discussed is she wants the Alpha Man to have masculine Alpha traits FIRST. And if you are a male that is more of the “Nice Guy” that Media and women “say” they want that also displays “sweet, faithful, fun, humorous, sweet, caring etc.” you will be “creepy” to her.
This SNL skit demonstrates it the best. The only difference is the perceived value between these guys.
Well, I went to load it, and the SNL Sexual Harassment & You with Tom Brady is blocked in my country. Apparently, it had too much truth. It went something like this:
In the office, one of the nice looking guys would say something to a girl, and she would claim sexual harassment.
Tom Brady, as an office worker, would go say the same thing, and the girl would melt and want to be with him.
They were making fun of women and how two people saying the same thing could be seen as two different interactions – one good and one bad. SNL also implied Tom Brady had higher sexual market value because of looks and money.
Tom “seems” Alpha so he can do or say anything he wants, but the Beta cannot say anything.
Feminism looks to control men and limit their options, both in sex and wealth, and as men follow these false beliefs, the worse they do with women.
I am trying to change that.
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Join discussionGreat answer, thank you very much. I come from Italy, my mother is french and my dad italian. I think both countries are much better than the english-speaking world when it comes to sex, dominance and BDSM fantasies. It saddens me that crap like “50 shades” not only finds success but is promoted to be “daring”.
You are so refreshing! I am so glad that I came across this site! I am a sociologist very interested in sexusl relationship dynamics. I have made many of the observations about Alpha males you have mentioned, and am usually misunderstood by men and women alike. I tend to attract alpha males, and have been in love with one in particular since I was 14. My friends think I am crazy for liking the way he treats me, and because I think he is a great person, and not a jerk. Thank you for clarifying the issue for many with truths that are strangely uncomfortable for most.
Wow, your bullshit really has no boundaries. Linking a study about rape in prison to hold up your rhetoric of how safe women actually are and how men are victims.
>Oh, and men are raped more than women, however some women would say a man couldn’t get rapped. They are obviously thinking in their very narrow “my safe world” and not reality.
Check out real rape statistics: http://www.rainn.org/statistics
I have mixed feelings. I’m amused and baffled at your own stupidity.
Why thank you for sharing your view – every time one of you SJW drops a comment it follows a typical progression. So allow me to retort…
You come to my site, call a well documented truth bullshit (which is a typical shaming tactic), then use LOWER numbers than I present to try to prove your point that women are in more danger than I believe? WTF?
Feminist and SJW suffer a similar problem – you see, words are spelled differently and have different meanings to convey different information. Numbers look different because they convey different values.
Rape is defined as penetration – so a man can be raped. And more men are raped each year, which really means it is a bigger issue for feminist to tackle, but they won’t as it removes their perceived moral superiority and removes their special privileges.
The reported Department of Justice study I quoted also included “forcible sexual harassment”, while your numbers include sexual harassment. These words are different because unwanted conversation on how sexy a girl is or grabbing her ass (sexual harassment) is not the same as holding a girl down and grabbing her tit “forcible sexual harassment” which is not the same as holding down a woman and fucking her against her will (rape).
Having your ass touched may be a 3 day out of school suspension or being fired from a job. Rape is 20 years in jail. They are not the same thing. So why do feminist and SJW’s wrap them together? Cause if the actual numbers are broken out the numbers are so tiny they don’t support the narrative. Just because you want something to be true does not make it true. Women are safer in our society at this time than they ever have been – regardless what your little feelings tell you. And it is men that keeps them safe.
Now, the truly funny part. I reported the numbers of “Rapes & forcible sexual harassment” from the DOJ as 0.76% of the US female population per year. You sent me to another site that claims – 293,000 women will be the victim of sexual assault which includes rapes. Your own numbers = 293,000 women / 156,849,117 women in America for 2010 = which puts your own damn numbers as .187 %. Less than my numbers and less than 2/10 of 1 percent. With the numbers we are talking that is a rounding error.
Allow me to further shed light on your lack of logic – Why Will Only 2 Out of Every 100 Rapists Serve Time? (from that site you posted) It lumps sexual harassment with rape, and then says only 2% of rapist are convicted. Almost everything in this argument is flawed. Rape and touching a girls butt are not the same thing. And just for the record, more girls have sexually harassed me than I ever have. But I digress. The study that is quoted did a phone survey asking girls if they “had ever felt sexually threatened?” – most people would say yes to this, then they ask if it was reported? – most say no. Then they group “sexually threatened in with rape and claim only 2% of rapist will be convicted. It is a sneaky lie.
Now, why do I say women are safe? According to asirt.org 37,000 people die in car crashes in the USA each year. Another 2.35 million are injured or disabled. According to your own numbers you are 8 times more likely to be hurt in a car wreck than even sexually harassed – and we are not trying to ban or shame cars – yet. Most believe driving is safe.
If people were really interested in equal rights for all, one side would not focus just on the plight of one sex. Rape is horrible, whether you are a woman or man. And so is a claim of false rape. I believe that only by discussing issues in a clear, logical and truthful way will we ever take a step towards solving these issues. And that truth is just as many women are just as evil as men – they may not be as strong so they display this evil differently.
You are “amused and baffled at [my] stupidity”? I am disillusioned at your lack of understanding with words and numbers.