AM I DAMNED because I’m virgin OR AM I A PRIZE?

Hello dear AlphaX
Would you help me? F19

I really like this guy, he is 25 , I met him on tinder . I do sent him nudes but when we meet, I refused to have sex with him (I’m virgin). I thought we had something but after that day he told me he only wanted sex. I been thinking about his proposal but I know after sex he will dump me soon or later. Because that is the nature of a dominant. (I mean, they never have just a woman.)

The questions:

•What do you think is the best I could do to keep his attention? Or I can’t anymore. I used the photos.

•AM I DAMNED because I’m virgin OR AM I A PRIZE? I need your opinion

• Is he likely to never talk with me again because I didn’t sleep with him or what?

• I don’t have much experience with men but I always thought they were looking for virginal sweet girls and I am all that include the long hair, pink lips and waist hip radio shit. I am Skinny too. Why then if I have the looks, (nice personality) he’s not interested on me for something serious? I feel not good enough for any man and I cry myself to sleep lately. The problem is mine or his?

•Should I stop looking for a dominant man? All dominant men have the modus operandi: fuck then love?

• What do you think?

I am so sorry if you think my problem is stupid but if you can answer me I will be so grateful.

Have a nice day or night!!

Sara,

Based on your email and writing, I am assuming you are not in America. Different cultures value different sexual roles – and virginity was once very prized by both men and women. It was a gift the woman gave to a man, and it also helped assure the man that the resources he earned for his family were actually for his family. In the world we live in today, the average statistics range from 24-26% of children born and DNA tested in the USA are not of the husband/boyfriends DNA (results obtained from multiple testing laboratories). The national average is expected to be more like 3.7% to 13.6 % depending on relationship type. Not sure about you, but if a girl I am dating shows up with a kid not related to me, nothing in the world is going to keep me around.

In addition, feminism has destroyed the value most Western countries placed on virginity, family and marriage. For most men, marriage is a very bad deal. This is doubly so for an Alpha male. Sure, having the freedom to not have to be a virgin, or feminine or follow any female traditional role is a lot of additional perceived freedom for a woman. What most women don’t understand is that additional freedom is also additional responsibility. Want to act like a man, you have to take care of yourself life a man. But I digress.

So on to your questions:

What do you think is the best I could do to keep his attention? Or I can’t anymore. I used the photos. – Your best offense with any man is your looks. Yes, your looks, your body type, the length of your hair, your feminine mode of dress. I know, some things are just out of our control, but a lot of it we can influence. The hotter you look (and I am not talking slutty or high fashion clothes) the more male attention you will receive from Alpha and dominant men.

AM I DAMNED because I’m virgin OR AM I A PRIZE? I need your opinion – That really depends on what you want and what you are willing to give up.

I believe marriage is a horrible idea for most men.

When I did want to get married I would have prized my wife’s virginity.

I have had the opportunity to sleep with a cute 21 year old virgin not too long ago, and I passed it up. She is a christian girl who was saving herself for her husband. I also knew I was never going to be that guy. Even telling her I would NEVER marry her didn’t kept her from stripping in my bathroom and trying to use her naked body to seduce me.

However, the average young guy would kill to have a girl like you. He likely won’t be an Alpha by definition, but that doesn’t mean he won’t be a more dominant type of man with Beta tendencies. The exception might be the strong religious Alpha, however these are rather rare.

If most girls could get past the tingles between there legs when challenged by an Alpha they would see that a strong nice guy is likely a better life choice. But most strong Beta’s don’t excite a woman the way an Alpha does. And not wanting to be tied down is a serious trigger in a girls mind of just how high our value is. It’s not playing hard to get, but guys like me know just how many and how easy it is to be with beautiful women, so we don’t place too much importance with any single interaction – and that triggers high social standing and attraction.

Is he likely to never talk with me again because I didn’t sleep with him or what? – That would be my guess. Or he will sleep with the girls that want to sleep with him, and touch base every few weeks to see if you have changed your mind.

I don’t have much experience with men but I always thought they were looking for virginal sweet girls and I am all that include the long hair, pink lips and waist hip radio shit. I am Skinny too. Why then if I have the looks, (nice personality) he’s not interested on me for something serious? I feel not good enough for any man and I cry myself to sleep lately. The problem is mine or his? – We have addressed this. Our culture has made marriage a bad deal for men. In America, marriage licenses are filed in the same place as Corporation licenses. It is treated as a business, and if you ever decide to leave, the man has no recourse and will likely spend YEARS paying for the divorce.

That and as feminism has lied to women thinking they can have everything, they tend to give sex easier which is what most men want – lots of beautiful girls they can sleep with.

Should I stop looking for a dominant man? All dominant men have the modus operandi: fuck then love? – Not if you want a dominant man!  You just need to make sure you are the total package, and he either has 20 years more experience than you and wants a marriage, or is as inexperienced as you and wants marriage or is dedicated to the same religion you are and is waiting for marriage. There are still dominant men out there that want marriage, but very few of them. Most men that have learned how easy it is to have beautiful women, or have women wanting sex with them regularly, and they don’t want to settle down.

Most girls want to settle down, but usually with someone they see as superior, and one of the key points of a man that is superior is preselection – that is, other women want him.

And most Alpha men don’t fuck then love – they fuck then leave. But they are usually upfront about it. I have told hundreds of girls “I am not THAT GUY… I am the guy you have fun with till he shows up.” And 99% of them wanted a relationship or marriage and still agreed to just be a sexual partner with me.

I don’t think your problem is stupid at all, you sound like a relatively innocent girl that is still trying to hold her standards. I think, if you want to wait till marriage to have sex, then wait.

With that, you have to understand the signals you sent. You sent him nude photos. Girls that send me nude photo’s that I think are attractive are invited over to my house to fuck. I don’t offer dates, or dinner, or romantic carriage rides around the park. If she sends nude photo’s then she is trying to entice me to dominant her sexually, and who am I to refuse teaching the young flower.

And that my dear Sara is where you messed up. You sent him nude photo’s using your sexuality to entice him. A typical move that most women use when interacting with a man they see as higher value. You did entice him and he made a sexual move that you rejected. In my mind, you tried to start this relationship with a lie, and he was the honest up front guy. You don’t have to like his response, but he was the honest one.

In the future, perhaps a different approach would entice the guys that want more of what you want, and less of the guys that just want sex.

In addition, feel free to send me the nudes.
AlphaX

UPDATED:

“Thank you, dear Alpha. I read this article the day you sent it to me by email and it was SO MUCH helpful, you opened my mind.

You are right, I lied to him because I wanted to start a relationship with him and I used my body. My heart was broken in the process but I learned the lesson and thanks to you I decided to never talk to him again before it was late and just before to accept to be only his sexual partner. I didn’t sleep with him.!!!:))

I follow this site from America Latina and yes my English is bad and I am sorry. Thank you once again.

Now I am dating this super awesome man who’s 28 years old and he is what I was looking for. I thought I was looking an alpha but I was looking a dominant man with beta tendencies as you said. He really wants to settle down and see my virginity as an important thing in the relationship. He respects me and wants to wait for me to be ready, ( even if I want to wait till marriage.)

And the most important part is, he really turns me on and the other way around.

Although I don’t want sex by now, I bombard him with tons of nudes and hot sexy pictures and he LOVES it. He is pretty comfortable right now with me and as long as he finish (cum) when I give him blow/hand/boob jobs, I am comfortable too. I love my man and I want him happy.

We are 9 years apart and he’s my second boyfriend but I value all his experience and we see it as a good thing. We know I’m the best girlfriend he had ever had and also the youngest. He loves my pureness and my submissive way to be, and I love when he takes care of me and call the shots. I’m lucky and happy now. I hardly cry nowadays and I am healing pretty well.

WHEN an alpha man dumps a woman it hurts anyway, no matter if you as the woman accepted just the sex or they throw themselves at you. ( they prefer a little taste to nothing at all).. It will still hurt and I want you to know that, Alpha.

Maybe with all your years in the game, you already know that. Just have a little compassion for those unwary women.:)
It is not an offense at all at your persona or your way to live your life. I really like you and seem like a good man with a kind heart your women are lucky in that sense.

BTW( the nudes are only for my daddy now;) )”

You are most welcome, and I sincerely hope it works out for you. Keep us posted.

AlphaX