Alpha Male Body Language

When I first started learning seduction, pick-up and ultimately Alpha, I believed learning body language was very important. And it is – just not in the way I first thought.

At the time, I believed that if I stood a certain way, or walked a certain way, or even sat in a certain way, I would radiate sexual energy, and silently communicate to females in the area I was a powerful, sexual male. And it is true, certain types of body language do communicate positively with the female sex, while other types of body language communicate poorly with the opposite sex.

In the early part of my training, I probably spent over $1,000 trying to learn body language – partly to read the intentions of the female, and partly to display (with my movements) my obvious desirability to said female. Now, I believe learning to calibrate the female (understand her emotional state through body language) is more important.

You see, I always wanted a way to read female body language so I could gauge her interest in me. Why would I do this? Well, if I could gauge her interest, then I would spend more time with girls that liked me and suffer less rejection.

And this is the weak & scared man’s view of bedding women.

Hell, I don’t even care how they feel at the start of the interaction, and usually, if I am interested, one of the first qualifying questions out of my mouth is “Are you bisexual?”. This brings a whole different level of attitude and energy than most girls are use too, and only 1 time out of 1000 does it not go perfectly.

Learning a few “typical” body language behaviors can boost your performance with women as you learn the attitudes. However, I found out the hard way that TRYING to portray a certain type of body language usually came across as stiff, contrived and usually gave the female that “something isn’t quite right” type of feeling. She may keep interacting with me, but deep down she has her resistance level and shield up because the energy between us is forced.

Now, when I walk into a store, or through the mall, I can instantly “feel” women checking me out. I catch girls looking all the time. And I know the secret – I know why my body language radiates even though I spend NO time thinking about it.

My body language reflects my attitude.

You see, before I knew better, I was looking for tricks. Lines, jokes, routines, signals and the lot that would tell or show me what the hell do to in certain circumstances. As I got better, I really started pushing the boundaries, and that’s when I learned your attitude and the energy you radiate is what dictates the interaction. Not lines, not routines, not looks, not money or anything else. It is your attitude.

Being an Alpha, or even displaying Alpha Male Body Language is already genetically programmed in you. You don’t have to learn how to move, you have to learn to unlock the attitude. That’s it.

Don’t believe me? Try this.

Think of something very emotional in a negative way? A time you were rejected, or humiliated or even hurt. See that moment replay in your mind. Feel those negative emotions. Now take a picture or look in a mirror fast.

What does your body language look like?

Shoulders slumped, chest slightly caved in, downward curl to the lips, slightly flared nostrils, eyes in more of a closed position with a furrowed brow? That’s what most people would look like.

Now think of something really positive to you. Think of a time you were the hero, or felt like the leader of your group while everyone had fun and laughed – or even a time that a girl reacted very positively to you. Feel these positive emotions. Remember the thrill and the fun. Take a picture or look in a mirror again.

And you should know what’s coming. Your eyes will be bigger and brighter. Your brow and body will be more relaxed, your shoulders will be more extended and your chest slightly bigger and more expanded. Not to mention the slight to big curl of the lips showing happiness.

You didn’t have to learn how to be happy – your body is already programmed to display a multitude of subtle (and not so subtle) nonverbal cues to relay to those around you: 1) How you feel, & 2) If you are a threat.

Keep in mind, our ability to understand and read body language is deeply programmed in us as a defense and mating mechanism.

Have you ever seen someone and instantly thought they were out of place, odd or a danger? If so, you don’t need to learn body language, you need to unleash the right attitude. If you have the attitude, you will automatically start conveying how you feel, who you are and your status all through your body language – without having to constantly remind yourself to “stay relaxed” or “take up space”

With that, I will give you the body language components to “feel” as you learn the Alpha attitudes and unleash your natural Alpha body language.

Alpha Body Language Key Components

1) One of the major components to Alpha body language is “comfort”. You have to BE calm, controlled and relaxed in your own skin. This is a primary trait for non-life threatening events – and meeting, flirting or seducing girls is very non-life threatening. Meeting and flirting with new girls should be fun and relaxed anyway. It really is no big deal.

2) Big body language. Now, I am not talking about being the jackass that takes up two seats whenever everyone else is squeezed into one. But I also don’t allow myself to be squeezed either. By big body language I mean “Comfortably take up space”.

When you sit, take up space.

When you stand, take up space.

By taking up a little more space you will notice a few subtle things happen to your body. Your crotch will be more open, your chest will be bigger and your shoulders will be more expanded. You will also tend to walk in a more erect position.

Keep in mind, this is not a “stiff” or pretend take up space, this is a natural, “it’s just comfortable” to take up space.

3) Don’t be too fast to smile, look down, or look away. I tend to place a lot of pressure on people I just met or saw with only my gaze. I am cool, controlled and not all that concerned with those around me. However, when I do meet another person’s gaze, I tend to hold I contact and “size them up”. I watch to see how they react. There is no threat in my gaze, neither is their humor, or warmth, coolness or anything else – I am simply judging them.

Now, if that cute girl looks down, smiles and turns 8 shades of red, I know what that means. I may approach her right then (when I was first learning I would always do this) but now, I am more likely to wait for her to walk close, enter my space or even just engage me.

If she looks down, blushes, smiles and then looks back and you, I would likely smirk a bit with a knowing and amused look. You own her, feel free to lead the interaction wherever you want.

More than anything, realize that these three general traits, and all of the subtle, micro nuances that associate with them rely on the Alpha attitude. An alpha male just knows he is enough. He believes in himself and his abilities and doesn’t really care too much about what others think about him. He isn’t afraid to behave like he wants and is never scared of losing a girl.

When you know you can go out on any given night and likely attract and bed a sexy, new, young girl, you aren’t really going to care too much about what others think about you either. You will be a man that is calm enough to do whatever he wants.

And girls just LOVE this man.