Ok, it depends what your motivation is, and what you expect. For me, the first date is coming to my house, having a few drinks and sex. This is my frame, my entitlement and my confidence level. I personally don’t ask new girls to dinner, or dancing, movies, or anything else. Not to go for a ride on my motorcycle, or to the lake, or shopping, or anything that requires my money or time and moves me into a logistical position FURTHER from sex.
If I am having sex with her, then yes, sometimes we will go do these things. But not before we have had sex. Men like to believe they have to prove they are worth having sex with, and women like you to prove/provide for them so they can decided if you are worth having sex with. And this is the politically correct way millions of people like to think about dating and courting. However, I am Politically Incorrect, and I prefer a method that digs straight through to our evolutionary core. Women chase Alpha’s for sex. Men chase women for sex.
My belief is that anything I do outside of having her for sex sets up the interaction and social dynamic of me chasing her. Of me taking her to dinner. Or me taking her out. Or me taking her to the movies. And that doesn’t work. Regardless of what women say, they want a challenge and a guy that excites them. In their mind they go through the “we will hang out, and go do stuff, and he will buy me stuff, then, after time, if I like him, I will bang him” when logically asked about the progression of their idea dating and relationship.
But the reality is much more fun. If, at the very beginning of the interaction, you demonstrate over confidence, Alpha attitude, a sense of entitlement and she see’s you Demonstrate High Value and fells attract/rapport with you, then she is expecting and wanting sex too. And if you are the Alpha with lots of options, your communication will always be of you expecting her to want you and to want sex with you.
Now, if you aren’t bold enough to just ask her to your place, the only other option is to meet for drinks. A great way of doing this and demonstrating your Alpha qualities while avoiding having to expend a lot of money is to ask her:
Her: “Blah blah Blah”
- You: “When are you eating dinner tonight?” Pattern Interrupt
Her: “Uhm, I am not sure. Probably around 7.”
- You: “So you will be done eating by 8:30?” Embedded Command
Her: “Yes, I should be.”
- You: “Good, meet me at PLACE at TIME and we will have a drink.” Command
And that’s how you ask a girl out. No would you like to? Do you want to? Can you? I would like to take you… etc. Be a man and tell them what you want them to do. Now, I wasn’t bossy with this. My frame isn’t “do what I want or I will hurt you” it is more “I am doing this you should join me.”
And if you have been Alpha and fun, she will meet you. A cheap date of a few drinks (what, like 10-20 bucks?). I typically pick a place close to my home. During those drinks I tease, flirt, and have a spirited conversation. I use pattern interrupts and embedded commands to let her subconscious mind run wild with the sexual seeds I am planting. After a couple of drinks, I tell her, “let’s go to my house I want to show you something.” When we get to my place, I pour us another drink, put in a movie, talk, natural kino, then sex.
Of course, you have to understand a lot of social dynamics and the nature of women plus how to communicate to them, but this is the way it’s done.
But what if she can’t or says no? A lot of discussion is centered around what it means and what you should do if you ask a woman out and she says she can’t. First, I think the process is screwed if you are asking women out. Second, I do agree, a woman who is into you but can’t make that time will counter offer. She will say something like:
Her: “I can’t tonight because of X. How about tomorrow night?”
And then do what you want. Meet her or don’t.
And if she simply says “I can’t” with no offer? Then she isn’t as into you as she should be, and you need to amp the Alpha, Cocky & Funny, charming, challenging side of your personality while demonstrating high value. Or go pick up another girl while she watches. I have, and it works wonders for making her realize she was the lucky one to even have a fraction of your time.
For all you Alpha’s in Training, I have a fun one for you. Rarely do I talk with a girl on the phone. For me the above conversation would have been a text, and I have since modified that down to the minimum as well….
- Text From Me: “Meet me at PLACE at TIME for drinks”
And I don’t respond to a “no” or “can’t”. The only response from me is when she needs directions or clarification on what to wear.
And I will send this to 3-6 girls. All to meet me at X place at Y time. Typically, 2-6 will show. Automatic preselection and demonstrates your high value right out of the gate. Now a side note, I tend to focus my sex life with bi-sexual girls, so if I am Alpha and fun, I can typically have several of these girls at the same time.
Try it, and no matter what just have the frame like “what, we are all friends just hanging out having a drink”. If you act like it’s natural and no big deal, so will she. And she will like you more, not less for it.
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